Confidence…it’s not something I can buy in a store or learn from a book. For me, it’s taken years to gain but can be shattered in an instant.
I’ve wanted colored tights for months, but could never decide what color, or get the courage up to actually buy them. When We Love Colors offered me a pair, I knew this was my chance to go big or go home.
I was so excited about my new amethyst tights, I couldn’t wait for Sunday so I could wear them to church. It was a restless night of sleep over the anticipation. I felt like a kid on Christmas eve, checking the clock every 45 minutes seeing if it was time to get up yet.
I felt excited, proud, and brave. I was fashion forward while still being modest and on the more conservative end for church. The young women in my ward loved them and my friends thought they were fabulous…
Dress worn as skirt: BCBG Outlet, Cardigan: Target, Tank: Shade Clothing, Tights: c/o We Love Colors, Belt: Old Navy, Shoes: Jessica Simpson, Watch: gift, Michael Kors, Ring: c/o Little Miss Momma, Necklace: ??
And in an instant, that confidence was rocked by the thoughtless comments of one person. I couldn’t collect LJ from nursery and get out of there fast enough. My cheeks felt hot and I stuffed back the tears, determined to not let anyone see. It shocked me how easily I let someone else change my entire mood and confidence.
I dress for me. I try new things for me. I push myself for me. I don’t need anyone’s approval. I don’t need anyone to say they like my outfit.
But I wear my emotions on my sleeve. A thick skin is not something I’ve ever acquired, nor do I want to. I know I shouldn’t let the opinion and unfiltered comments of one person get to me, but they did.
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Nina, I absolutely love you thights! You can definetaly pull it off
! I’m sorry about the persons comment that put you down… I truly look up to you and its taken me a while to be confidend enough in front of the camera.
You’re rocking it girl! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise
Karina
LOVE this outfit!!!!! You totally rocked this one!
I am SO sorry that happened. I agree how easy it is to let someone’s comment rock your self confidence. My word of the year this year is peace and it is all about not letting others affect my mood. To receive the negativity in the way it was sent, as a reflection of the other person instead of me.
You looked beautiful. I love the tights. I hope you wear them again, to church. Don’t give more weight to the one thoughtless comment than all the positive love which you had already heard. Love should always win.
(And by rocked, I mean you look amazing!) I know how it feels to be knocked down by someone’s rude comment. But seriously girl, you look beautiful! I’m so proud of the chances you take. I often sit at my computer thinking, “I could never do what she does!” And sometimes I’m just too tired to care what I’m wearing. But I love that you take chances. Keep doing your thing!
So sorry someone was rude, sometimes I don’t think people don’t quite realize what the are saying. I think you look AMAZING! I love the tights. The whole outfit is great, classy yet fun at the same time.
Well I think you looked beautiful! Usually when people say rude things it is because they don’t have the confidence to pull it off themselves. I’m sorry it got you down…I totally know how that feels. Keep rocking those colored tights girl!
Long time lurker but this story needs a comment. You look FANTASTIC!!!
I think you should have said something to the person who obviously has no feelings or compassion. I also feel like it is good to let people know ( in a nice way ) that they have hurt our feelings. Church ladies can really get us down but know that you are a loved women by people you do not even know and you inspire us to get out of our sweatpants.
Thank you!
That is a bummer that someone had to say something negative! But you shouldnt let it get to you, you look fabulous! I LOVE the colored tights, and that you used a yellow belt too! I really like that color combo!
Everyone actually loved the idea.. but it was way before it was popular…. at least in our small town (I’d never seen or heard about people wearing colored tights aside from children!). So I had to go online to search fort colored tights for adults to wear.. and I actually found the site We Love Colors! 
Great site! 
Check it out: http://i1122.photobucket.com/albums/l539/AgapeLoveDesigns/aleawedding.png
I just think it is so great that colored tights are so “in” right now… about 4 years ago I sounded crazy by suggesting the bridesmaids were colored tights for my sisters wedding!
I had to track down a picture of myself in the blue tights for you… I couldnt find any others (in my possession) where you can see my full body straight on… but you get the picture!
~Maria-Isabel
Firat
Trying to type on my phone sorry! What I was going to say was first of all I wish I would have run into you yesterday at church. I would have told you that you looked fantastic! And that I love the tights! Second of all, tell me who that rude person was so I can beat them up next week!
Nina, I LOVE the tights and the belt!!! SO cute. SO colorful!!!! LOVE
Hands down…favorite outfit EVER of yours!! The color combination is amazing and your legs look FABULOUS
I hate that someone was so hurtful. The tights look AMAZING! I was reading the entry on my phone, so I couldn’t see them right away, so as I read I was wondering what color they’d be and how they’d look. When I scrolled down I almost gasped. They seriously look awesome on you, and I hope your confidence goes back up next time you wear them!
You pulled those tights off so well! I hate when people comment on clothes…. I mean, do they actually think I’m getting dressed for them? Clearly, I wear what I like…who cares what others think! Keep rockin’ those tights!
You look AMAZING!!!! I think you shine in this outfit.
Nina, I LOVE the tights!!! I think they look great. Don’t let anyone put you down. People only do that when they are plagued with negative thoughts and emotions. Keep on rocking all the awesome color. So many people are afraid to embrace color, you OWN it!
I think you look darling. I’m sure that rude person was just jealous that they don’t have you sense of style or aren’t brave enough to try new things! You only live once! Why not have fun with your clothes and try new things?
Don’t let the Debby Downers of the world do this to you!! You are rockin’ the tights and everything else!!! You look fabulous and there is no reason for you to let the haters get to you!!!
Although I’m the same way…one little comment sends me to a tailspin…today let’s choose to unite and not give those Negative Nelly’s power to control us anymore!!! Girls with Awesome Tights UNITE!!!! Love ya!!!
First- I hate that. It has no place in this world, let alone at church. People are dumb.
Second- Totally happened to me, while rocking a new dress, and MY SON told me I looked fat, and another person asked me if I was expecting (later explaining that she mistook me for another facebook friend). Anyway. I had a big self-pity nap, then my husband pointed out that it was a full moon. I’m no terrible superstitious, but I believe the full moon brings out the crazies and the crazy in us all.
Your tights are awesome. Your blog is awesome. Screw the rest.
LOLOL! I think those last three sentences kind of sum it up, Rae.
Oh my goodness. You look AMAZING in this outfit! I’ve been following you for about 6 months, and I think this is one of your best ones. Super flattering, spunky, colorful, and conservative, too. Wear them again proudly! I worry what others think of me, too, and I’m sorry that someone said something to you to make you feel bad. People don’t think before they speak, and it sucks. Know, though, that you looked gorgeous!
You look great and I love that you took a risk! The person probably does not know too much about fashion and was a bit green with ency on how fashionable you always look. I love colored tights. I wore white ones with my dress to church yesterday
oops I meant envy not ency LOL
I too wear my heart on my sleave and have had my feelings hurt countless of times by rude people. I am so sorry that someone felt like they had to bring you down to build themselves up. Folks that make mean comments must be insecure and unhappy, and just want others to feel as they do. Don’t let that person hurt you for one more second. First of all you look adorable. Before I read the post, when I saw the outfit, my first thought was one of my favorite ones yet. Love the bold color of the tights and belt. You look so fashion forward and girly. I know it is easier said then done, to let stuff blow off your shoulders. I have acually lost around a 100 pounds and have dealt with rude comments in the past about my appearance, even from family members. I don’t want to develop a thick skin, but I try not to waist my energy on foks that feel a need to be cruel, they are not worth the time, but you are
Oh no! I’m so sorry someone said something thoughtless and rude to you!! Be sure that that is about them and not you. There is never a reason to be unkind. Perhaps that person secretly envied your daring and confidence. Because of that, some people just can’t stand it and want to tear you down to try to make themselves feel better. (((hugs)))
I think colored tights make a great fashion statement! And I applaud your courage in taking the risk in wearing them. That’s what this blog is all about, after all, and you encourage others to take risks with their own style. I have worn both leggings and tights since I started hanging around this blog and my outfits are the better for it!
In fact, I am wearing tights in one of the outfits in my blog post today, and wore them for the first time in years. Thank goodness no one said anything unkind to me. And thank you for being such a great example.
How dare they say something to you. You look beautiful and you pulled it off better than I could have. Hold your head high knowing your style is you and no one can take that away from you. Be confident and continue to take chances because you give the rest of us confidence to do the same. xoxo
PS, just sent you an email. I would love to work with you on a giveawy and review.
I am the same way. When my youngest was a baby there was one Sunday where she was really fussy in Sunday School. My husband was in the CHP Academy (gone 24 hours a day/5 days a week) and this particular Sunday he was sick so he stayed home to catch up on rest before returning to the academy that night, so I was at church with my four kids alone. Thankfully the others were in nursery and primary. I was wearing some heals (old ones) that my grandmother had given me and I really liked how they looked. My little one started fussing again and as I got up to leave the rubber on the heal broke off and the shoe got snagged in the carpet. Some people around me started laughing and I got broke down. Already stressed to the limit with a screaming baby and now a broken shoe, I could not take anymore. I went into the mother’s lounge and spent the rest of Sunday school and Relief Society crying my eyes out. I think what bothered me the most is that no one offered to help me, they just sat there and laughed.
You are a beautiful, strong women, don’t let someone make you feel any less. (something I need to tell myself). I once heard that you choose to be offended, no one can do or say something to offend you, it is your choice to be offended by their actions or words. However, I know in situations like those (and I too wear my heart on my selves) that is hard to not fell upset about it. Hugs!
You don’t need approval, but this outfit gets you lots of approval from me! As someone above said this is one of my favorite ones.
Beautiful! Now maybe I will have the courage to wear something other than black/brown/navy!
I love the tights!
I love the tights too! Don’t let people tell you other wise. LOVE THIS OUTFIT!
You give me new confidence in trying new styles – thank you for being a marvelous maverick! Don’t listen to the haters – they are secretly wishing they had what you have. You shine, girl!
Your post today was one of those that hit it on the head for me. I am similar in many ways, and I wanted to let you know that I look up to you in the blog world! You always look amazing, and your confidence rocks! It takes a very confident person to blog, especially about their fashion ups and downs! GREAT job for wearing the tights and rocking them well!!!
Stunning as always!
I think that person should spend less time making snarky comments and more time paying attention to the church service! Sounds like they need a refresher course in manners! And I love the tights – super cute!
I’ve been reading your blog for a while now, but never commented before. For this post I need to comment. I have to say, I think this outfit was one of your best ones ever, and I absolutely cannot believe anyone could say anything negative about it. Please don’t let it get to you. I’m sure it was generated based on insecurity, not on you. You, my dear, look AMAZING!!
This is one of my favorite outfits! You look fantastic! Didn’t that member remember the old saying “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything” AT church yet???? You look great!!!
I’m sorry someone was insensitive. I love the combo of the pink tights and yellow belt. Whenever I wear bright colors I always end up too matchy matchy. I love the way you mixed it up and used black to anchor it all together.
SOOOO SOOOOO SOOOOO flippin cute! That outfit is fabulous
Loveeeeee this outfit, everything the belt, the polkadots and the tights.
Well, whoever it was, obviously is blind. You rocked those. And you look great… not over the top at all… no different then wearing colorful shoes! some people are just jerks… brush them off
as a matter of fact… I’m getting some now LOL
Really cute outfit! LOVE the pink tights! You look great!
You look amazing! I am inspired by your fashion choices and how you keep pushing yourself to try new things. Don’t let one person ruin you confidence. You are inspiring so many of us week to week
Love those tights! Just linked up my scarf post – first time I’ve linked up with you!!
Jen
athomeinthenorthwestblog.com
you wear confidence and purple tights well!
You totally rocked those tights. Forget about the haters. I know it’s easier said than done, because I’ve always been very sensitive about what others said about me and my clothing — even if I didn’t particularly like that person.
But honestly, they look great.
Thanks for hosting this linky. This is my first week here & at WIWW and I’m really looking forward to developing my own style a bit through this — something that I really never put a whole lot of thought into in the past.
Love it girl! You look amazing!
I think that you looked fantastic and rocked those tights! Good for you for taking a chance… Boo on them for trying to break someones spirit. I find that those who criticize are ususally too afraid to go out on a limb themselves. Keep wearing those tights! Be your self! I love it!
BTW, I’m new here today! Made By Munchie’s Mama sent me…
Linked up too… I’m number 64.
Have a great day!
Megan
You rocked it!
Love, LOVE, LUHOOOVE, your dotted skirt, tights and the whole shabang!
You give me courage…to try a little something new one day.
Thanks!
You are rocking those tights, Nina, and fool on anyone who says otherwise! You’ve inspired me to buy a pair for when winter arrives here. I think this is your best outfit yet.
You and I are exactly alike on the confidence thing. BUT…I do know how to dress baby, and anyone who says they dont like my outfit has no taste. So that lady obviously has no taste or eyes or is narrow minded. She has no taste to tell someone else they look bad, ROCKin those tights in style or not! 90% of the time my clothes are not “in” but I rock the hell out of them and EVERYONE tells me how good I look. (and I am a BIG GIRL) So people assume I am a confident person because i dress with confidence. You need to have confidence in your style. It is something YOU work on on a daily basis. A great outfit totally makes my day and no one is going to come along and steal my thunder. I might let them for a minute but in reality you know you totally rocked it!!!!
Sorry but that just ticks me off, especially at church~!!
I wass browsing your blog to see if I’m missed anything lately….and lo and behold…I see these marvelous colorful tights that literally make me say “whoa”…..I think you looked fantastic and if you want to rock amethyst tights….you rock them sister! I personally think that people who have something to say about others is really slightly jealous they couldn’t pull it off themselves. I love how you try things that aren’t in the comfort zone…it makes others feel comfortable doing the same. I wouldn’t be blogging about my outfits with the number my scale says to me if it wasn’t for your blog!
Way cute! Your color combo is just fabulous!! Great inspirational colors!
http://fitcraftystylishandhappy.blogspot.com/
Just letting you know that I’m featuring you and your polka-dotted purple tights awesomeness on Feature Friday Free-for-All tomorrow, Nina! Thanks for linking up!
~Abbie